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Offline Oneblueleg

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Change your thinking...
« on: July 03, 2008, 05:39:04 AM »
Change Your Thinking

It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking.

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room's only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon,  when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the w orld outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He straine d to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.   

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'


There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

I f you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't  buy.

'Today is a gift, that is why it is called  The Present.'

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Re: Change your thinking...
« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2008, 03:00:11 PM »


You have said it all.  Nothing else remains !!   ;)  ann

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Re: Change your thinking...
« Reply #2 on: July 03, 2008, 03:32:41 PM »
OBL - I have to agree with Ann. 

I was talking with a LBK last evening at an amputee support group meeting.  He had recently visited with a recent amputee approximately 100 miles west of here.  He indicated that he wasn't sure about what he was doing or the value but came away essentially energized by the visit.  His comments mirrored my reasons for becoming a peer visitor and trying to help others get through a very trying time and process.  Your story mirrors those sentiments beautifully.

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Re: Change your thinking...
« Reply #3 on: July 03, 2008, 03:43:55 PM »
Wow, thanks so much, OBL.  The sharing is very much appreciated!

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« Reply #4 on: July 03, 2008, 07:01:36 PM »
OBL Your story is beautifully told, and is paralled with the glass is half full, rather than half empty.

We need to continue to look deep inside to bring out the positive, to envision beauty where there is none. Here in this forum, we have many to help us through the tough times.

Thank you again for sharing the story.

Dave S
Taking one day at a time!!


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Re: Change your thinking...
« Reply #5 on: July 11, 2008, 01:39:47 PM »
Very good! and oh so true if only all people thought this way!

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« Reply #6 on: July 11, 2008, 04:54:01 PM »

A great story.  I saw it recently on another forum, and certainly worth repeating here - and again.

I think we amps who are survivors have said it so many ways.  If ya' gotta go for the ride, ya might as well enjoy it.

And yes, when we look around us and see what some pople are living wioth - or without - we realize that we're having "a walk in the park".

So, smile and enjoy your day, folks.

Dick Stevens, DBKA in PA


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Re: Change your thinking...
« Reply #7 on: July 11, 2008, 07:11:04 PM »
Right On Dick!